It's a hoe down dirty shame...

Our next question comes from a husband whose wife just earn the SLUTMUFFIN LIFETIME ACHIEVEMENT AWARD. Congratulations Hoe!

Question:
Hello. Back in May of this year I found out my wife was having an affair with one of my best friends since February and I'm really crushed by it. Not only did they hide it from me, but many of my other "friends" knew about it and collectively decided not to tell me what was going on. It gets worse because I had exhausted all of my options trying to figure out a solution to our problems and in April she convinced me to have a threesome with him and her, hoping that would cover up the fact that they had already been getting it in. I'm devastated and now after 8 years of being faithful, I just want the touch of another woman. I've been searching on CL for months now and can't find anything real. I've forgiven her but I'm tired of fighting this urge. Any advice would be helpful. Thanx.

Answer:

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Let us jump right into this! Your wife cheated on you, with your best friend, asked you to have a threesome as some sort of cover up and on top of that you were humiliated enough more because everyone knew except you?!?!?! Are you freaking kidding me?!?!?! If you have completely forgiven her, for which I seriously doubt, you deserve the saint of the year award. This only happened within in the last few months I do not see how you could have forgiven her, but I think you deserve some brownie points for trying to convince yourself you have. This woman, I am so sorry to say, is trifflin as hell. She isn’t even sorry for what she did because if she was she would have NEVER brought you in on such foolishness. Sometimes the only way to get someone to understand the hurt is to hurt them in the say way. Now that may sound childish on some level but if you want to stay together, she needs to understand the hurt that she has caused........... CRAIGSLIST.....

Craigslist is a great place to sell household goods but a terrible place to meet women. The only women you would find on CL are cam chat girls and you are looking for some down and dirty action here but if you are looking for hoes they would may be of better quality than the one you currently have at home. Always start close to home when you are looking for someone, such as friends or friends of friends. Most of the time someone closes to you has always desired you. If that does not work, go out and meet people. With time, patients and consistency you will surly find what you are looking for.

On another note, kick that bitch wife of yours and trifflin ass “best friend” of yours to the curb. They deserve each other.

Lady E

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Pickup lines are for Losers

Question:
I'm having a problem picking up women a lot of time ill build up enough to walk up to them and not know what to say so do you have any pointers on what I should do next time.

Answer:

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1st response:
You are in the city of women and beautiful women at that. I am sure date life can be frustrating and scary. Most importantly get rid of everything you think you know and change your mind set and stop trying to “pick up women,” your words. My suggestions would be,

1.Try and try again. The more you get in the routine of approaching women the easier it will be. Also the more you approach women the greater your chances will be in getting a yes.

2.Start of by just saying hello. Pickup lines are the dumbest thing a man ever though of. If she is interested she will make time for conversation with you. Don’t start off by what is your name can I have your number. You might as well hop on the nearest bus to rejectville.

3.Make her laugh.

4.Avoid women in large numbers. If you are fearful it will show and her friends will clown you either in your face or behind your back.

5.Find away to set yourself apart from other men. Don’t act like a dog and don’t treat her like meat. She is a human.

6.Don’t be too needy, if you do get the number do not call her all day long.

7.Be yourself and be natural- No matter how many times this is said men don't listen! Trying to be someone else come across awkward.

8.Be confident- this cannot be said enough. Confidence is so sexy!

9.Prepare for the worst- It’s really not that bad, the worst she can say is no. So what! You didn’t know her before and you will live without her!

10.Take away the pressure- Dating should be fun. Don’t take yourself or the situation so serious.

Lucee Lit

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It's about to be a WHAT?... Girl Fight!

Well maybe not; but it sounds good! Our next question comes from a lonely lesbian lustfully craving for affection.

Question:
30 aggressive fem my girl is 25 dom we never see eye to eye...its like shes more feminine then me like the roles should be switched. I moved to deleware and shes still in baltimore and doesn’t want to leave her so called friends.. its been almost a year... im lonely and tired of bein by myself . is it wrong to have a open relationship and meet other ppl for friends maybe sex

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Answer:
Dear Lonely and Tired,

1st response:
Maybe I am completely clueless about lesbian love, but I am confused as to how her femininity is a problem. Obviously you are attracted to female qualities or else you would be with a man. Some people are just not meant to be and you know better than I if this is the case with you and your partner. Arguments are necessary for any healthy relationship but should never outweigh the good times.

From what you wrote it sounds like you may feel the need to be in control and are not in this relationship, it’s ok not to have control over everything. You need to find out where this need is coming from or this problem will follow you in each relationship you have, romantic and platonic.

Why did you move to Delaware? If you were going to move to be closer to her why didn’t you move to Baltimore? Baltimore and Delaware are not far at all if you both want to make it work it is very possible. Honestly, I feel like you are being selfish. You want her to leave her life and friends to be with someone who comes across as bitter and selfish. It seems like you are looking for her to fill a void. I am not trying to be mean at all I just want you to be aware of how you come across so that you can make the adjustments. I promise you that if you do, you will be a much happier person. You may not know it but this may be why you are in the situation at hand. You have been given the opportunity to really get to know you.

Lonely is a natural feeling but everyone needs time to their selves to discover. Use this time wisely and do not be angry at anyone for your situation. You hold the key to your happiness.


As far as an open relationship, it is not open if your girl does not know about it. It seems that this is not really what you want and that you are just doing it to again fill a void. My suggestion is to accept that fact that you are in Delaware and embrace it. If you and you girlfriend are meant to be, I know this sounds cliché’, but really, it will be, and it will be easy and will not feel forced.

Best of luck to you,

Lucee Lit



2nd response:

Sounds to me you need to drop this chick and keep it moving. Why waste your time when you never see eye to eye? Why waste your time just to have an open relationship? You two are even in different states for goodness sake! Why can’t you let her go and go about your business? Seriously get it together, find someone new or stay unattached and just have a good time.

Lady E

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This Right Here's A Panty Dropper...

Our next question comes from a gentlemen that loves panties so much I bet he can guess your panty size.

Question:
Im single and im finding i have a realy panty fetish and dont know the type of girl that will appreciate that or if a women even will? what do I do? is this a common fetish? panties just excite the hell out of me?

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Answer:
Never be ashamed of any type of fetish you may have.

Others have the same desires as you. I am not quite sure of the panty fetish you are speaking of specifically. No matter what the exact fetish is, you cannot just spring that it any woman! You will need to control your desire until your companion is comfortable with you and you have had sex a few times.

At first, make a small joke of it, later slip on a pair and see what happens. I will say you cannot put on a pair of women’s panties only to give her some lame dick action. Make sure your sex game is up to par and she will not give a crap what type of fetish you have.

On the other hand if you simply just enjoy seeing your woman wearing panties, that is no big deal. Buy her panties and assure her she looks fabulous. Build up her confidence and she will not mind prancing around in panties all the time. Just remember no matter what your fetish consists of do not spring it her. It takes time and a certain comfort level to explore sexually. If you dick her down well enough almost any woman can deal with a little freak sneaky!

Lady E

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Would you like to date this cutie petutie?

Question:
I was wondering if I was ugly or something cause its hard for me to find or even approach a girl sometimes.

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Answer:
Dear Cutie Pie,

Thank you for supplying a picture so we may better judge your level of attractiveness. I think you are quite cute so your problem is not your appearance.

I can only imagine your problem lies with inexperience or being shy. Learning to approach women takes time. Very few men are born with the ability to attract women. Women love a confident man, a man that can keep them laughing, a man that has something going for himself, and a man that seems different from other men. What is that thing that makes you special? Think about it and use that to your advantage.

Men have such a bad rep for being dogs,

setting yourself apart from stereotype will get you far. For example: Do not approach a woman saying I want to be your friend after she says she has a boyfriend. Instead try asking if he treats her right. Make her feel like you care but be genuine. 1st steps first you cannot talk to women if you do not have anything worth talking about. Stay away from lines and making her feel like an animal or a piece of ass.

Forget about what other people think and don’t be scared to take a chance. You are not ugly so chances are if you put yourself out there you will succeed. In addition, make sure you dress nice and stay away from tight jeans or hood looks. A woman worth your wild will not find either appealing. Dress like you have some sense, keep yourself looking nice and take care of your personal life and women will see that and they will begin to approach you. What city do you live in? Maybe we can try hooking you up on a date. What do you think?

Would you date him? If so, email us at bloggaffair@gmail.com.

The date's on us!


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Facebook, ruining relationships one comment at a time.

Our next question comes from a victim

..................... of the evil cyber world of facebook.

Question:
This sounds interesting! Ok..my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, I recently went on his Facebook and saw some of his comments to this one particular female. He.called her sexy, he use to call me that. He also commented that he would like for her to take him away with her, but he quickly put "lol" at the end. And for them to meet up and have drinks one day...now the kicker...I am not on his Facebook....he said that he needs his space, and he gets that through Facebook. Am I over reacting or do I have something to worry about? Oh...he said it was harmless flirting...yea I confronted him about it. Your input would be greatly appreciated.



Answer: Need we say anymore?

But we will...


This question was answered by the Bloggaffair team & has received 2 responses:

1st response:
I think people take facebook way to serious.

Social networking has been the death of many relationships. It is part of the reason I only use it for business purposes. Many times you can see things that mean absolutely nothing and many times people try and portray things that just simply are not reality. The internet in general allows people to be who they want because it eliminates the fear of being caught. We have an article titled, I am attracted to someone else and it’s ok, at http://bloggaffair.blogspot.com you may want to check it out.

While I think it is ok to look, there is a fine line between what is disrepectful. While he may not have met the girl for drinks and while he may not have done anything, notice I say may, I am sure you feel disrespected it is now up to you to you to decide if you will tolerate the disrespect. Is it that big of a deal to you? Do you find yourself doing the same things? If so, drop it. If the problem is that he called the other girl sexy, and he doesn’t tell you that anymore, communicate that to him.

The fact that you felt the need to check his facebook says enough to me that you don’t trust him and that there is probably a good reason why. Most people give trust until the trust is broken. Don’t go looking for answers if you are not ready, always be prepared for what you find. You should have waited to comfort him until you had solid evidence that something went on. Pick your battles, now he will most definitely change his password, and now you have nothing.

But don’t worry, everything eventually comes to light, a person can only hide their truth for so long. Trust me if he is cheating the signs are there, look for them. If you want to take it a step further, try what countless other girls have, make up a fake page with fake pictures and fake friends and try to get him to bite the bait. If he is smart, he will say he knew it was you, so be prepared.

That bull about needed space is complete foolishness. Do you really believe that? If he had nothing to hide he wouldn’t care. Guys get space by hanging out with the guys, going to the gym, even going to the strip club. When you need space from your partner you do stuff you like without your partner, not by rejecting their friend request.

So all in all, my advice is this.

Stay of facebook, if you want to stay in the relationship, which I assume you do, because your still in it, wait and watch and the truth will surface but if your gut is telling you that he is doing wrong, do yourself a favor and get out now and don’t waste anymore of your time. It’s been four years already.

Lucee Lit


2nd response:
Poor Naïve Girl,

You sound like such a sweet young lady but clearly naïve.
You are not allowed on his Facebook because he needs space? Really?!?!?! It is not even a good lie! He really does need some space and that space does not involve you. He may not want to end the relationship completely but it does sounds as if he wants to keep you around while he flirts and eventually, if he has not already, cheat on you. You sound relatively young and being with someone for 4 years is a long time, your relationship may have simply run its course. You are probably thinking he would never do that to you but unfortunately, he’s showing the signs you just do not want to see it. Listen to your gut, you obviously know something is going, if not you would not have asked for advice. Do not let him think his “harmless flirting” is acceptable because it is not. It is simple disrespect and no one deserves that.

Lady E

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The Bloggaffair Team

Too soon! Dont do it! Reconsider!

This question comes from a sex craved man on the verge of tappin some new new unless his old lady starts serving it up.

Question:
Hi I’m 23 white male .I been with my girl friend for 2 years. She want to get married and I do to but I feel like I want to satisfies my sex desires But she is not into having sex that much and she don’t like trying new things. I love her and feel like I might mess things up by cheating. Please help.

Answer:

This question was answered by the Bloggaffair team & has received 2 responses:

Dear Blue Balls,

1st response:
I say that you are two young to think about marriage right now especially with a pending problem. It really does not sound like you are sure if she is really “the one.” To me, it sounds like you need to weigh your options. What is more important? If sex is more important, and to some people it is, and that’s ok, then you may need to find someone else. If sex is not that important, then stay with your current girlfriend and invest in some toys or lotion.

Try asking her about her fantasies, everyone has one. Ask her if she is still attracted to you. If you do not communicate it will only get worse. Think about it, if she is 23 and doesn’t want to have sex imagine if she is 40!

Often times, for women, sex is emotional. If you want to make it work then try to connect with your girlfriend on a deeper level. Spend more time talking to her, touching her without the expectation of sex, send cards, send sweet texts, go on dates ect. Communicate with her, tell her how you feel and discuss how you can make it better. She could be stressed, do nice things to relieve that stress, light candles, run hot bubble baths, rub her feet. Put in some extra effort and most likely you will be rewarded.

Lucee Lit,

What do you think Lady E?

2nd response:
Guess what…

you are not ready for marriage. You should not even propose at this point. Many people, men and women alike, are not sexual individuals. That is simply how some people are. I find it strange that you assume because of her lack of interest you will cheat on her. I do not know one single person that has cheated on a wife/husband simply because they were unsatisfied sexually at home. In order to cheat on someone you love, committed to and made vows to there is more then a sexual disconnect. There is another problem somewhere and unfortunately, I cannot help you with that.

You need to communicate, maybe she is sexual but she is displeased with how you deliver the goods. Maybe when you talk to her she will open up and let you know what the problem is. She may just tell you that is how she is and sex is not extremely important to her.

Say this aloud and see how dumb it sounds. I love my girlfriend and I want her to be my wife but she is dull as a box of rocks in the sack so I will end up cheating on her. Do you hear how immature that sounds? Does that sound like someone that should be thinking of marriage, absolutely not. Your girlfriend wants to marry you and believe me I know you have some jacked up qualities (because we all do) but she loves you anyone and sees you as her future husband. If you are unable to commit to her please do not propose to her and please do not encourage it when she speaks about it. Tell her you are not ready because you want to explore more. You and this girl may not be the right fit and frankly, at 23 I think there is more fun out there for you to have.

Lady E

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